". . . a unique book about how our minds will do anything
to have control. AND I MEAN ANYTHING! Not only does Bender present his
case well, he also never fails to give us tools and techniques for lessening
the terrible grip our minds and egos keep on our true selves, a grip
that is responsible for many of our illusions about life and the suffering
those illusions instigate. Some of the most fascinating material is about
giving ourselves permission - yes, permission - and accepting things
the way they are, rather than denying or giving into the illusions that
our mind desperately wants to hold onto. I got so much out of this book
that I was glad I gave it a chance, and recommend it to anyone who is
tired of the “same ole, same ole” when it comes to self-help
—Marie D. Jones, Author, Looking for God in all the Wrong Places
"If I were to
describe Black Ice & Banana Peels in one sentence, it would
be this: It thoroughly explores the kaleidoscope of tricks that the mind
plays on us. These are the real mind games, and this book helps us recognize
them. Black Ice & Banana Peels is not only intellectually stimulating,
but it also provides practical ways to beat the mind at its own games.
Dr. Bender has a knack for understanding and explaining mental processes
and states of mind. If you have an interest in the workings of the mind
and how it affects behavior, then you will benefit from reading this book."
—Michael Lamas, Eastern Spirit Magazine
"I congratulate you on a most valuable
and useful contribution. It’s
grounded and gets right down to some of the essential issues facing
us all as we journey through life. I like the fact that you did it without
getting into anything flaky (as people often do these days.) It is
material that everyone should be aware of, and put into practice. A great
primer on how our minds work – and how they get stuck."
—Peter Russell, Author, From Science to God and The White
Hole in Time
"A must-read work
for healing, self-help awareness and life purpose expansion. A superb
writing style granting intuitive insight into the knowledge presented."
"It is a fast moving, eminently readable book that
has application with students in the helping professions, folks on the
self-help bent and the intellectually curious who would like some guidance
in the process of day to day living. There is never a sense of preaching,
proselytizing or replacing society’s dogma with the author’s dogma. Abundantly
clear, in this work, is the frequent description of situations when the
reader says, “Hey, that’s me he’s talking about!”
—J.M. Henry, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist
"Thank you! Your book is fantastic!
The information is incredible. It reaches several layers at once . .
. very potent delivery and written in such a way as to reach/touch a
very broad band of people. The presentation is delicious! It feels like
a new pair of glasses."
—Susie Jouett, LMP, Massage Therapist
"Loved the book. It’s meaty,
dense, almost a stream of consciousness dialogue with the reader. I had
to take my time with it, as it had a lot of information I wanted to digest.
Black Ice & Banana Peels is
yoga for the mind – and
it improves your balance."
—Suzanne Pletcher, Public Relations Consultant
"I found your
pragmatic, neutral language and lack of story quite shocking and very
effective. We’ve never met - how did you know all the
sordid, tacky, small-minded Grinch-souled details of how I do life?
I will strongly encourage my students to read this book. I found the
book impactful in very practical ways and it has had a marked effect
on day to day interactions with my nearest and dearest. The book is
an absolute gem. "
—Wendy J. Evans, MPH, Ph.D., Sociologist
"You have done an incredible
job explaining complex and often subtle patterns of human behavior
in a very readable way. The amount of material you have here is amazing
and its importance cannot be underestimated. You have really helped
me understand what is going on and eased my feelings of inadequacy in
—Ellen Holden, Registered Nurse
"Your book contains powerful insights into
the mind of a certified control freak like myself. "
—Pat Boyd, Molecular Biologist
"Black Ice and Banana Peels sounds like an
adult beverage, not a life changing, thought provoking tool for happiness.
Five hours on an airplane felt like five minutes. Thanks."
—Ron Wilson, Small Business Owner
"Dr. Bender’s book, Black Ice & Banana
Peels is more than a catchy title. It is a substantial work that transforms
complex psychological theory into logical, common sense applications."
—Dennis Alters, M.D., Psychiatrist
"A brilliant book! Very well written,
so clear and so practical. I don’t
believe there are any other books out there that address how the mind
controls our life as well as yours does. Having your book available for
those times when I forget these truths will be a wonderful asset. It
is such a foundational piece to understand one’s mind. Mind is
the jailer and also holds the keys to our freedom."
—Shondeya Betari, Business Consultant
"Drawing aside the curtain to reveal
the manipulations of the wizard behind it, Black Ice & Banana Peels
is an insightful, compassionate, deftly written explanation of the nature
of the mind."
—Michael Meyer, Feldenkrais Practitioner